How ‘The Four Agreements’ Help Me Be a Better Man Every Day – Brian’s Blogs

Even the happiest people on earth need a little help now and then. The tears of a clown are real and there are times you need a little push in the direction of understanding, motivation and joy. I always try to be an upbeat, positive person. Happiness is my goal every day that I breathe but days do exist when we need a little help to get our mind straight and need a few wise words to get our mental engine firing. I have something that helps me get through those times.

I have been in a bit of funk lately and have had trouble getting my brain to shut down to relax. I was cleaning out my drawer at home and found these words of wisdom, re-read them and have once again found my proper perspective. They are The Four Agreements from Don Miguel Ruiz.

There is a lot of wisdom in these 4 simple little agreements you make with yourself and they can really make a difference in your life if you adhere to them.

Be Impeccable With Your Word-Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally-Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions-Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best-Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simple do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.

Whenever I am confused and lost or beat up I pull these words out and I am able to reset myself. I hope they work for you too.