Comfy Couch: Loving is Free Will [VIDEO]
A crazy statement but true... we choose to love, its the liking one another that hard.
How many times have you fallen so desperately in love only to find yourself not liking who your with? It happens more than you know or realize. It isn't the love that fails you, many people have said through the course of time, I love you, but I can't live with you or I just don't like you. When couples part ways often times you will hear of their love. You date another and know that they still love their ex. It doesn't mean that the ex is a threat, it just means that once upon a time they chose to love someone and then it didn't work out. There are many people from yesterday that I love, but because I don't like them and what they represent, I could never be with them again. I think once we do decide to love it is to some degree endless, love is so powerful and all encompassing that it is difficult to put restraints on it, therefore we don't and can't.
It's Falling Out of Like That Ends a Relationship
Think about that one for a minute... how true is that? If we are allowed to be honest with ourselves more often than not the love remains, its the liking that has been flushed down the toilet. The longing for him or her is still there until too many times when the longing becomes only a memory. When you get near your loved one, instead of feeling happiness and warmth as you thought and longed for you feel cold and disconnected... that's the like leaving love town. When your hopes of a warm connection fade and happen too infrequently you lose your longing. And that's when the relationship is clearly over... see, it's not the love that took a hike first, its the like.
Getting the Like Back in Love Town
This is easier said than done. You must first recognize that the like is fading. An argument, two arguments, three arguments... disrespect... resentment, these are stepping stones to the end when they become more frequent than quiet moments with tender words and touch. When you start to look at your mate like a blank wall its time to find the like. It's like the Brad Paisley/ Carrie Underwood song, no really, it's exactly like that. Remind Me!!!!
We didn't care if people stared
We'd make out in a crowd somewhere
Somebody'd tell us to get a room
It's hard to believe that was me and you
Now we keep saying that we're OK
But I don't want to settle for good not great
I miss the way that it felt back then I wanna feel that way again
It's so important to stop and see that this is happening, closing your eyes and being blind will only speed up the processes of goodbye. Take the time to be together. To remember. To like each other. Don't resent one another and be sure to always talk it through, don't hold on to the poison that riddles your mind. Be honest... say I'm scared... say I'm lost... tell them you can't find them and that you need to reconnect... don't be selfish, be sure to listen with an open ear. It isn't easy to hear that we have faults... that we're wrong or that someone close to us is falling out of like, but remember you've chosen to love, you have put that out there in this universe...what now? Protect it, that person you first liked and couldn't stay away from is the same person in front of you now... look harder, challenge yourself to be truthful and revive it or move on.